To the person who is missing it all......

Dear You,

I write this letter after the loss of someone near to my heart that I only wish could have snuggled my beautiful daughter. I write this letter to you as you have chosen to not know my daughter. Our lives didn't get to busy, we didn't have too much planned, but you chose to not see her.

As a mother I can not understand not wanting to see your child, let alone your granddaughter. You are missing the greatest miracle and beautiful human being in the whole world. She is a fighter, she loves like no other, and her personality is something to treasure.

You were not there when she was born and fought for her life, you have not been there to witness the milestones we have so longed to see, you were not there to support your son during these very difficult months. And you chose that.

Each month has been hard, full of surprises, and amazing smiles! You missed it. You continue to miss it. You know she was born early, you know her life started off rough, you have been made aware of the struggles and special needs she has yet again you still chose to stay away.

I have opened my home to you, our hearts have been open, but I now feel that the door is beginning to shut. Maelee is the most important person in my life and the fact that you have chose not to see her is something I would rather not deal with. I will one day have to look at her and find the words to describe the situation without talking bad about you. I will never speak of you in a foul fashion nor have I, you are the father to my husband and "grandfather" to my daughter- I use that term loosly since you have no idea what being a grandfather is truly about.

We no longer speak of you. We no longer write you emails in hopes of responses. We no longer wait for you to show up with that open invitation we have given. We don't expect you to ask questions or care......we know all too better. I pray that you change, I pray that you open your heart and realize the choices you have made are life long.......I pray that you realize we have not shut our door to you but yet you still don't come in.

Being a parent is a gift and something to be treasured. Being a grandparent is made of pure joy, love, and something many never experience. You have been given a gift but yet you throw it to the curb. You have filled your life with people you "love" yet they have put a wall between you and your family.

You don't have to like me, I am ok with that. You don't have to like the choices I have made. But you should show love to your son and your granddaughter with everything you have.....yet you choose not to.

So to you I say- I am sorry you don't know Maelee. I am sorry you don't get to see her personality or how much she resembles Granny in the things she does. I am sorry you choose to not wrap your arms around this little girl who is growing so fast. I am sorry you will never get to experience her love, for she is a miracle and the love she gives is that of a miracle! Her precious hugs, kisses, and sweet conversations are something you will miss.

But what I am sorry for the most is that one day we will have to tell her what really happened, the choice you made, and I know those words will sting her, hurt her, and possibly make her feel less. You have chosen to put that burden on a child.

Sincerely,
The Mother of a miracle, Wife of your amazing son, and a woman who will never understand the conditions you have placed on everyone.